Virginity Tussle: Is It Really Necessary?

Do you care if she is a virgin or not? What has virginity got to do with it?
The alluring backsides of women, the curvy bodies, the full figured breasts and the satin like skin of some women are the reasons why they have a long list of suitors, nothing more

Some have unbroken hymen as additional factors. But really,  should there be something more? What more should there be? Does the virginity of a woman on her wedding night guarantee her chastity?

We have heard of serious cases of promiscuity by married women after marriage,  women that married as virgins are not left out of the dirty game. There is nothing new under heaven.

A woman that got married as a virgin might have just been a child that didnt go out of  her parents wingfold and a woman that got defiled before marriage might have been a victim of child molestation or even adult rape.
Time and chance happen to them all.
Rather than die after the things that are prone to wear and tear, it is better to fall in love with the part that are sagless like my friend jokingly put it. The heart, attitude and character are sagless. They remain in the marriage forever,  they are the values that can increase.

You need to consciously examine why you think you love that woman. If you have loved her for a wrong reason, it’s high time you did a U-turn before you create a permanent damage.
As much as it is advisable for you to marry what you want in a woman, Don’t love a woman for just her body, you may not know her to meet her deep needs. Love goes beyond the physical and when you can’t love a woman rightly,  she becomes the worse version of herself.

Have a forgiving spirit. If the woman you truly love is not a virgin either by her own intentional actions or circumstances, and you realize that her heart is good and has got the right content, don’t deny yourself the chance of a good life by not accepting her. So many perfect couples today had to accept one or more shortcomings of their spouses.
We know our society attaches so much importance to the hymen as a proof of chastity and some men still find it hard to believe that women with unbroken hymen exist. Other men are on the search for Virgins and will marry no other than them, whichever group you belong to as a man, you need to start looking beyond that.

Start looking beyond the curves and the backsides, those are not all there is to a woman. Look beyond the hymen factor, see what other value the content presents you.
Search for areas you can help her become better, the focus shouldn’t only be about you and what you stand to gain, this is not a capital budgeting or investment decision where cost benefit analysis drives your move. You need to do some evaluations right, but the analysis shouldn’t be all about your gain.

Look out for a real woman and i tell you, they are not so hard to find if you are looking in the right places and with the right motives.

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